Learning how to Hold Space for someone and Why Leaders and Pioneers need Safe Spaces

Holding space for people is an invaluable gift to offer humanity.

Learning how to hold space for people without hijacking the conversation - making it all about yourself, or quickly glazing over what they are sharing - expecting people to immediately 'shake it off' and be all better within 0.2 seconds of the conversation when they've just shared something hard, is one of the most intentional and important skills you can learn.

I get it -- this can be uncomfortable, challenging, and clunky to do. But it's something we must learn how to do for each other. In a world that is more connected than ever, but also more lonely and disconnected at a heart level then we've ever been, being a safe space for people to process and let their walls down, is a very valuable yet underrated skill.

It will improve all your relationships across the board and make you a person who adds value in any room you walk in.

When you give people SPACE to just be - without trying to fix them -- a powerful interchange spontaneously happens.

Here's why it matters:

You are creating space for them to (just) be human.

You are seeing and recognizing them in their full humanity, even when it's messy.

You are allowing them to be loved for who they ARE; NOT what they DO.

Holding space for people is not just a key skill to learn -- it's also a GIFT you can actively and intentionally give to people. Having this perspective, that you will gift people the gift of time and space, changes the whole way you show up.

Granted this only comes from healing yourself first, so that you have the mental, emotional and spiritual capacity to hold space for someone else. Afterall, you can only give away what you have experienced first for yourself.

Think about a time someone held space for you that you always remember. Why did it impact you so much? What did they do to make you feel safe enough to share and how can you use those techniques in the way you show up for others?

I deeply believe we need more emotionally healthy and spiritually mature people, who can hold space for people, well.

This is one of the things I have come to love most about myself and realize is a very special gift I have. Others have told me I make them feel safe, to be fully themselves. That is the highest honor and compliment.

The reason I have such a heart for leaders and pioneers, is because they and constantly pouring into others, but unless they are intentional about it, they rarely have someone pouring into them. They are always. so busy leading and showing up for their people -- that they often don't have a safe space for themselves to just be.

As a prophetic heart strategist, that is the key thing I provide for leaders and pioneers. A safe space for them to be and process. A safe space for them to recharge, dream, and clarify their vision without judgement. A space that every leader needs.

Yes, I am a strategist at heart and love strategy, but I've found in coaching and advising leaders, that the key to even getting to the level of clarity you desire, where strategies from Heaven start to flow like water-- is first making time and space to process what's going on.

We spend so much of our lives, not fully processing what happened or what is happening to us. We just get in survival mode, put our head down, and power through it. Which I get - I've had to do that many a time. But eventually, at some point, all that stuff has to be processed. Otherwise your heart gets blocked up with unprocessed experiences, and it actually prevents you from being able to see as clearly as you need to, so that you can navigate what God's calling you to build with precision.

You start to feel slightly out of alignment spiritually, but you're not really sure why.

That's where I come in.

I help you first process what's going on (or what has happened to you) so that you can get the clarity you need to move forward.

As we talk and I sit with you, I ask you questions that help you pinpoint what God's doing and the way that he's been speaking to you in this season that you might not have noticed, then help you identify which strategy Heaven is breathing on in this season, so that you can move forward with clarity, precision, and confidence.

If you are a Kingdom leader, pioneer, or Spirit-Led entrepreneur you don't just need a safe space to process, you also need someone who can hear from the Lord clearly and help guide you through what God is doing on the inside of you, because the journey is always about growing closer to him.

You need a person is led of the Spirit and who can help tease out the nuances of what He's doing in and through you in this season, so that you can see more clearly and execute with clarity and aligned action.

If you're a pioneer and this resonates with you, and you'd like someone in your corner to help you do these things, reach out and let me know. I'd love to hold space for you on your journey.

Here with you,

Iman